Category Archives: Coping

Time Out for Mom…


Remembering Mom...

Sunday was the anniversary of my mom’s passing 14 years ago. We weren’t able to go up to the cemetery, so I decided we would go out on Saturday to buy some incense and a small container to hold them in. I remember paying respects to my grandfather when I was a kid, and I thought it would be nice for Malachy to remember and pay respects to my mother. I never met my grandpa and Malachy never met my mom. Sometimes, I feel my mom is teaching me through Malachy. I appreciated her growing up, but even more so now than ever. She really showed me what it means to live for others, and it’s what I hope Malachy learns from me. Not through words, but through my actions. Rest in Peace, Mom. We all miss you so much.

Time Out for Justice

News came out today that 8 U.S. Army men have been charged with the death of Army Private Danny Chen. I had the honor of teaching DannyΒ in Pre-Kindergarten and Kindergarten.

Today, Justice lays down her sword, puts down her scale, takes off her blindfold, and weeps. She can’t bring back Danny to his friends and family. She can’t take back all the abuse Danny endured from those who were supposed to be on his side. Peace, Hope, and Love try to comfort her, as Anger knocks on her door. Joy is far far away…

They say Danny is in a better place… Why couldn’t that place have been here?

When Danny was in Kindergarten
My First Kindergarten Class - 1997
Joy

Time Out for Remembrance…

Yesterday marked the 13th year of my mom’s passing…

Dearest Mom,

Wishing you were here,
Your grandson… filling you with joy.
Seeing you in him,
A heart beaming.

Selflessly, you raised me up,
Older, I’m learning…
How much you loved,
How much you gave.

Grateful, thankful
Without you, I wouldn’t be,
I couldn’t be.
The Father that I am.
The Father that I’ll be.

Remembering you…
Loving, Learning, Laughing.
Living.

Malachy and my mom...

Time Out for Wedding RingLessNess…

Ringless...

On Thanksgiving night, Shien realized that her rings were gone, her wedding band and her engagement ring.Β  At first, we thought she might find it at work the following Monday. No luck. She thinks she might have either taken them off when she was putting hand lotion on or she might have lost them while cooking, when she had to constantly put on and take off gloves while cooking. She couldn’t recall at all,Β  because of her lack of sleep due to schoolwork. This was her second wedding band and her engagement ring was from Tiffany. She said the first thing her co-workers said was that her husband must be SO mad. Nah… I just felt sad when she said she missed them. πŸ™

Diamonds AREN'T forever... πŸ˜‰

I just read this online article called, “What do Do if You Lose Your Wedding Ring,” It said, “If polled on what are people’s most treasured possessions, very high on the list would most certainly be their wedding rings. A symbol of love and commitment, wedding rings are often never removed and worn from the
moment the “I Do’s,” are said until death or divorce.” I never thought of them as a symbol of our marriage or love or what not. I always felt it was a symbol that the rest of society expects from us; so come time when I needed to get a ring ten years ago, I decided she deserved the “best.” So, I got her a ring from Tiffany. It had small rubies (which I think aren’t even PC anymore) and small diamonds on it. Shien was never into big stones. Lucky me! πŸ˜‰ In fact, when we do get a replacement ring, she said she wants it to be stoneless. I’m working on getting her a ring that can be worn as a necklace. Having a jeweler working on it. She (Marie-Lise) has made a few things for Shien already in the past few years, so let’s hope for the best. πŸ˜‰

If anything is to be a symbol of our love and commitment, I would say it’s Malachy! Rings can be replaced. He is priceless! πŸ™‚

Time Out for Allergies…

Kleenex Galore!
Allergies BE GONE!

Poor Malachy has allergies. I guess it was inevitable since both Shien and I have allergies. Just didn’t think he would have them at such a young age. A bunch of his classmates have it really bad, too. Wish he could take medicine, like me, but he’s been pretty good, considering. Thank goodness he can blow his nose! I seriously didn’t learn how to blow my nose until college. My “snorting” bugged Shien so much that I decided if I was going to marry this girl, I better learn to stop making gross noises and learn to blow my nose! πŸ˜‰
So, when Malachy’s nose gets really stuffy, he is actually able to tell us he needs help to blow his nose, even if it’s in the middle of the night. One night, he was coughing from his drainage and stuffed up nose, so Shien went to help him. After blowing his nose, he thanked her and went right back to bed.
Not only does his nose get stuffy, though. His eyes get itchy and he sometimes licks his lips till he’s pink all around.
Hoping this allergy season goes away soon! Back at my dad’s house, I once cut out this huge headline from a newspaper that said, “ALLERGIES BE GONE!” It’s still hanging in my old room! πŸ˜‰ Maybe I should get it and post it in our bedroom for Malachy. πŸ™‚

Time Out for Mom…

Today marks twelve years since my mom’s passing. How I wish Malachy would have known her. He would have loved her so much, and she would have been so great with him. This Sunday my sis gets married, and how I know how much she wishes Mom were around. Gotta’ believe she is watching us from above and smiling. She did such a great job with us, and so much of what I did and what I do now… to make her proud. Now, with Malachy, I see more than ever how much she sacrificed for us, how much she gave of herself, and how much she loved us and my dad. When Malachy gets older, I’ll be sure to tell him what a great mom I had, as he has the best mom. I feel like she is an angel watching him from above…

Time Out for a Sad Goodbye…

Jimmy (1957-2010)

My colleague, my friend, Jimmy, passed away this morning… Everyday at work, I witnessed him serving others. Whoever was in need, he would be there. Wherever there was a problem, he would try to fix it. No complaints. We made a great tech team. I couldn’t have asked for a better partner. He will be dearly missed by so many because he touched so many. Our school won’t be the same without him… πŸ™

Time Out for Christmas…


Malachy had an awesome Christmas, with lots of holiday gifts and cheer. During dinner, he kept making a toast. He said, “Listen, listen, everyone. Let’s toast to Peace on Earth!” He just loved the sound of it, and so did we.
Earlier in the day, I made a visit to Jimmy. Before I left, I told Malachy I was going to see him, and he said, “Daddy, take good care of Mr. Jimmy.” I nearly teared. When I went up to see him, it wasn’t looking good at all. An hour ago, I just found out he’s now on life support. The one big Christmas wish I had… He always gave to others, helped everyone, put others first. At a loss for words right now…