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Time Out for Father and Son…

This weekend, Mommy was at a wedding in LA, so it was just me and Malachy this past weekend.  It made me feel that much more blessed to have Shien as a partner.  It was awesome hanging out with Malachy, but it made me that much more appreciative that we have a team.  When one of us is tired or bogged down with work, we have each other, and that makes a HUGE difference.  I thought about all the single moms and dads out there, or even the parents that go it alone most of the time, like stay-at-home moms and dads.  And… I only have ONE child! 😉  It makes such a difference when there is support.

So, Malachy and I got to eat take-out (more than once 😉 ), played in the tent, went to the library, played in the park, went food shopping at Trader Joe’s, ate out, and I even managed to cook chicken stew, and had Malachy doing his homework at the same time!  I got a glimpse of why some parents resent homework so much sometimes.  🙂  He even got to pitch in with the cooking after he was done.  It was a great feeling to have Shien come home to a hearty cooked meal, and a semi-cleaned up house.    Trying to be a good Dad, a good husband…  Priceless… 😉

Napping in the Tent...

Time Out for Laughs…

Laughter
In education, you have the “3 Rs” – reading, writing, and ‘rithmetic. In high school, I came up with the “3 Ls” in life – Living, Loving, and Learning. Since then, I’ve discovered the fourth “L” in life, which is laughing. Malachy has brought so much laughter into our lives. It’s awesome! 🙂
On the snow day on Friday, Shien and I were SO sleepy. He dragged us both into the living room, after finding out there was no school. We were both knocked out (on and off), while he ate his snack and did some writing. At one point, he asked me if he could use the computer, and so I let him use it for a bit. He pretty much can operate my Mac, as soon as I put him on the internet. Later on, I had noticed that his uncle wrote on my IM, “You guys had no school, right?” Malachy had typed back the word, “yes!” Then his uncle wrote, “Malachy must be so excited.” Malachy read what his uncle wrote and typed back the words, “uh – yes.” When I got on the computer later on, I told his uncle that I just got on, and that he was actually “talking” with Malachy. He was like, “Shut up, I don’t believe you.” I couldn’t believe how Malachy made his uncle think that I was talking to him, without even intending to. 😉
Some other funny Olympic moments today…

During the hockey game, Malachy asked, “Why are they playing with a checker?” So, today, he learned the word, “puck.”
After the Canadians received their medals, and flowers, Malachy asked, “What are they doing with that broccoli?” He was right, those flowers that they have been giving out do look like vegetables!
Finally, I was feeling so bad for the American goalie, when they were interviewing him after they lost and received their silver medal. The interviewer was just asking him a ton of questions. I was saying, “Come on. Leave him alone.” Malachy looked at the television and said, “He needs his mommy.” He was right. He REALLY looked like he did. 😉

Time Out for Double Happiness…

Double Happiness!! It’s Fatherhood Friday!  Fatherhood Friday at Dad Blogs Fatherhood Friday (Dad-Blogs.com) is celebrating their one year anniversary, and it’s a cool way to remind us Dads to keep up the blog writing and to celebrate Fatherhood.  Ironically, I came upon this online article this week titled, “Do Kids Make Us Happy?” and it talks about the recent media following research that reports kids = a decrease in happiness or well-being.  Some “studies” even show an increase in depression among parents with kids.

Today, I was half-awake as Malachy was watching Nickelodeon’s, Ni Hao, Kai-Lan.  The theme was, “Everyone is happier when they have choices.”  I think having a child can definitely limit some of the things you can do or prevent you from doing things you used to be able to do.  Perhaps this resentment (thinking about what might have been or could have been) can sometimes bring about unhappiness?  For me, my marriage and having Malachy has brought the most joy in my life.  Stress?  Yes!  Struggles?  Yes!  Totally worth it?  YES!  How fitting that I took a picture at my sis’s wedding with Shien and Malachy next to the Double Happiness Chinese character! 😉

This week Malachy and I were on break, while Mommy had a huge workload for school.  So, I got to play the role of SAHD (Stay at Home Dad) for a couple of days.  Parenting is exhausting, but it sure is rewarding.  He continues to amaze me everyday, and I feel truly blessed.  Just yesterday, I was on the computer, and he sat next to me and decided to draw a map (see below) of how I go to work and how Mommy travels to class.  He called up his mommy and took notes on how she traveled to school. Then he started drawing NP and SP for North Pole and South Pole.  He concluded that Santa, Jesus, and God must all live together.  He know that Santa lived in the North Pole and had learned that North means “up.” Since Jesus and God live up in Heaven, then they must be up North with Santa!  You can’t dream these things up… 😉

I think of my mom, and how she basically lived for me and my family. More and more, I realize the HUGE sacrifice she made of herself, as she did EVERYTHING for us. Now, I know why she took naps everyday and why she took out so many romance novels when we went to the library. She needed a break and she needed an outlet. My sis, my dad, and I certainly weren’t 100% happiness guarantees. Far from it. How I admire her more and more. She made it look so easy and never complained…  How I wish she was around, as Malachy would have been the perfect gift for her!  Thanks, Mom!

Time Out for Mom…

Today marks twelve years since my mom’s passing. How I wish Malachy would have known her. He would have loved her so much, and she would have been so great with him. This Sunday my sis gets married, and how I know how much she wishes Mom were around. Gotta’ believe she is watching us from above and smiling. She did such a great job with us, and so much of what I did and what I do now… to make her proud. Now, with Malachy, I see more than ever how much she sacrificed for us, how much she gave of herself, and how much she loved us and my dad. When Malachy gets older, I’ll be sure to tell him what a great mom I had, as he has the best mom. I feel like she is an angel watching him from above…

Time Out for A HAPPY NEW YEAR!

A Happy New Year to ALL!

Parenting Resolutions | New Years Parenting Resolutions | How To Be A Better Parent.

The link above provides a nice checklist of parenting resolutions.  I think the most important resolution is to appreciate the time that we have and enjoy all that we have.  I like the last sentence that says, “Above all else, let’s resolve to enjoy one another and let that always be enough, no matter what time of the year. ”

The less time we spend wanting things, the more content we will be.  As Malachy would say, “ENJOY!”

Time Out for Christmas…


Malachy had an awesome Christmas, with lots of holiday gifts and cheer. During dinner, he kept making a toast. He said, “Listen, listen, everyone. Let’s toast to Peace on Earth!” He just loved the sound of it, and so did we.
Earlier in the day, I made a visit to Jimmy. Before I left, I told Malachy I was going to see him, and he said, “Daddy, take good care of Mr. Jimmy.” I nearly teared. When I went up to see him, it wasn’t looking good at all. An hour ago, I just found out he’s now on life support. The one big Christmas wish I had… He always gave to others, helped everyone, put others first. At a loss for words right now…