It’s Fatherhood Friday! Fatherhood Friday (Dad-Blogs.com) is celebrating their one year anniversary, and it’s a cool way to remind us Dads to keep up the blog writing and to celebrate Fatherhood. Ironically, I came upon this online article this week titled, “Do Kids Make Us Happy?” and it talks about the recent media following research that reports kids = a decrease in happiness or well-being. Some “studies” even show an increase in depression among parents with kids.
Today, I was half-awake as Malachy was watching Nickelodeon’s, Ni Hao, Kai-Lan. The theme was, “Everyone is happier when they have choices.” I think having a child can definitely limit some of the things you can do or prevent you from doing things you used to be able to do. Perhaps this resentment (thinking about what might have been or could have been) can sometimes bring about unhappiness? For me, my marriage and having Malachy has brought the most joy in my life. Stress? Yes! Struggles? Yes! Totally worth it? YES! How fitting that I took a picture at my sis’s wedding with Shien and Malachy next to the Double Happiness Chinese character! 😉
This week Malachy and I were on break, while Mommy had a huge workload for school. So, I got to play the role of SAHD (Stay at Home Dad) for a couple of days. Parenting is exhausting, but it sure is rewarding. He continues to amaze me everyday, and I feel truly blessed. Just yesterday, I was on the computer, and he sat next to me and decided to draw a map (see below) of how I go to work and how Mommy travels to class. He called up his mommy and took notes on how she traveled to school. Then he started drawing NP and SP for North Pole and South Pole. He concluded that Santa, Jesus, and God must all live together. He know that Santa lived in the North Pole and had learned that North means “up.” Since Jesus and God live up in Heaven, then they must be up North with Santa! You can’t dream these things up… 😉
I think of my mom, and how she basically lived for me and my family. More and more, I realize the HUGE sacrifice she made of herself, as she did EVERYTHING for us. Now, I know why she took naps everyday and why she took out so many romance novels when we went to the library. She needed a break and she needed an outlet. My sis, my dad, and I certainly weren’t 100% happiness guarantees. Far from it. How I admire her more and more. She made it look so easy and never complained… How I wish she was around, as Malachy would have been the perfect gift for her! Thanks, Mom!