Sunday was the anniversary of my mom’s passing 14 years ago. We weren’t able to go up to the cemetery, so I decided we would go out on Saturday to buy some incense and a small container to hold them in. I remember paying respects to my grandfather when I was a kid, and I thought it would be nice for Malachy to remember and pay respects to my mother. I never met my grandpa and Malachy never met my mom. Sometimes, I feel my mom is teaching me through Malachy. I appreciated her growing up, but even more so now than ever. She really showed me what it means to live for others, and it’s what I hope Malachy learns from me. Not through words, but through my actions. Rest in Peace, Mom. We all miss you so much.
This week, many of my students made Mother’s Day cards in class. I shared with the classes that EVERYDAY should be Mother’s Day! This is something we shouldn’t wait once a year to celebrate. The gift of life. PRICELESS.
Last week, when I went out to dinner with Malachy, he just started talking about my mom out of the blue. He’s done this on more than one occasion. He said aloud, “Ngan, Ngan is the best buddy. [I agreed with him] I haven’t seen her in a long time. Dad, how come we can’t go to heaven to see her?” It’s like he can read my mind sometimes and just wants to comfort me! It’s like he knows that I’m thinking about how I wish Malachy and my mom got the chance to hang out. It’s comforting to know that somehow, he feels her presence. 😉 Very cool.
Today marks twelve years since my mom’s passing. How I wish Malachy would have known her. He would have loved her so much, and she would have been so great with him. This Sunday my sis gets married, and how I know how much she wishes Mom were around. Gotta’ believe she is watching us from above and smiling. She did such a great job with us, and so much of what I did and what I do now… to make her proud. Now, with Malachy, I see more than ever how much she sacrificed for us, how much she gave of herself, and how much she loved us and my dad. When Malachy gets older, I’ll be sure to tell him what a great mom I had, as he has the best mom. I feel like she is an angel watching him from above…